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The image most people carry of alcohol dependency is recognisable: a person whose life has collapsed around their drinking, whose difficulty is visible and unmistakable. This image is not wrong. It just accounts for a minority of people with serious alcohol problems. The majority — and the majority, in professional and high-achieving populations, are disproportionately […]

There is a version of this that gets told as a cultural failing — men don’t ask for help because masculinity forbids it, because they’ve been socialised to suppress emotion, because they’re too proud. All of that is partly true. But it’s not the whole story […]

The clinical literature on codependency was written largely about women. Not because men don’t develop codependent patterns — they do, in significant numbers — but because the way those patterns present in men is sufficiently different that they often go unrecognised, both by the men themselves and by the practitioners working with them […]

The Role of the Father: How Fathers Ignite in Their Children the Desire to Grow There is a moment -- and most of us can find it somewhere in memory if we look hard enough -- when a father did something that made us want to be more. Maybe he showed us how to fix […]

Men and Emotions: Why Feelings Stay Hidden and How to Change That There's a particular kind of silence that fills a room when a man is struggling. Men and feelings have always had a complicated relationship — not because men don't have them, but because the script says not to show them. It isn't peaceful […]

What is an alpha male anyway? Walk into any Instagram scrolling session or self-help bookshop, and you’ll hear the same thing: men should be dominant. Men should be aggressive. Alpha males are self-sufficient; they possess all the success, wealth, and romantic partners they desire. But there’s a problem[…]

There's a Smarter Path to Becoming the Man You Want to Be. Let me say something that might land wrong at first. Discipline is not your problem. In fact, it might be part of what's keeping you stuck. I know. That's the opposite of what every productivity guru, men's coach, and stoic meme account has […]

There is something inside of men that we have never been able to put into words. It is what makes a man work harder, fight harder, and build bigger. It is what he feels on the pitch when everything gets sharper, and his body knows exactly what to do. There is a reason behind every great act of ambition, every empire built, and every mountain climbed: it was there. When it goes wrong, it is also behind some of the worst things that happen to men. Dr Philippe Jacquet has worked with men at this exact crossroads for more than […]

The Invisible Crisis Behind Success: Eating Disorders, Cocaine, Sex Addiction and the Search for Intensity in High-Achieving Men By Dr Philippe Jacquet, DProf Jungian Analytical Psychotherapist · Harley Street, London   He is still running the firm. Still billing the hours. Still in the gym at six. Still the man everyone calls when something needs to be fixed. He is also, in ways that no one around him knows, using cocaine most weekends, unable to stop an escalating pattern of sexual encounters that have hollowed out his marriage, restricting […]

There is a paradox at the heart of male psychology that I encounter in my consulting room again and again. Men report lower rates of depression than women. Yet men die by suicide at dramatically higher rates. Men say they are fine. Yet the silence itself is the wound. This is not simply a problem of individual men failing to ask for help. It is something deeper — a structural, psychological, and cultural crisis embedded in the very fabric of what it means to be male. […]